Is social media ruining our lives? Let’s find it out “How social media is destroying our lives?”
Social media has become an integral part of our life. Its presence has changed the way we used to interact with each other. Its presence has grown even stronger in the last couple of years. It hasn’t only changed the way we communicate; rather it has changed the world we used to live in. Now we can interact with anyone, anywhere, anytime. Businesses are using social media for daily operations.
Now we can even shop directly from social media networks in some countries i.e Facebook. It is now so integral to our lives that it is one of the top activities that we do every day. But what we don’t know the fact that it is not so good for us.
In this blog, I would like to share with you the downsides of social media. And honestly, I believe its downsides far outweigh its benefits. And I believe many of us are already aware of these downsides. But we pay little attention to how social media is destroying our lives.
It’s actually hindering communication:-
Even though the social media giant Facebook (aka Mark Zuckerberg) wanted to connect the people together. It was connecting the people from Harvard University together. Today we are doing everything on social media, but communicating not so sure. We are not actually communicating with anyone while using social media. We might use it for communicating sometimes. But usually, all we are doing is sharing the pictures and posts for which I believe no one cares about, while other times we are just scrolling through feed which seems to be endless.
But because of this we even forget to talk to people living right next to us. Rather than making us more social, social media use ends up destroying our social lives. Research has also proven that communicating In Real Life (IRL) is much better than communicating on social media networks. It is much more engaging and satisfying when you talk to someone in actual life as compared to social media. As it is easier for our mirror hormones to feel what others are feeling. So rather than trying to increase your friend list on Facebook or followers on Instagram, it would be much better if you communicate in actual life, only if you really want to communicate.
FOMO stands for Fear Of Missing Out. It is social anxiety stemmed from the belief that others might be having fun while the person experiencing the anxiety is not present. It involves a deep sense of envy and affects self-esteem. And social media is the major cause of it. While we check social media, we see everyone is having fun while; we are f**king our own minds. So where while we should enjoy ourselves on social media we end up hating ourselves.
But that is not what is actually happening. Because what we see on social media is not always true. Even if it is true but we usually only get to see their best moments, as we don’t post everything in there. Only the best moments of our lives are posted there, they click hundreds of pictures of themselves and post only a few discarding the rest. But it can make you feel even worse when you yourself are not doing anything. It can hurt your self-esteem badly.
Killing our time:-
It takes discipline not to let social media steal your time.by Alexis Ohanian
Social media is the primary time waster in our life. While we waste our time on social media, just scrolling endlessly on these seemingly endless feeds. We lose our precious time that we can spend on doing things that can make our lives more meaningful. These things include spending time with family, friends, or learning something new, or doing something which makes you happier.
We are doing this for various reasons, one of those reasons is that it gives us a false sense of belonging. We usually find posts that are very similar to what you are feeling yourself. And it helps in validating the emotions you are feeling. So that means that social media is basically exploiting your own emotions to keep you hooked. And it is constantly improving every passing minute. They design their algorithms in such a way that they get better and more efficient in keeping you hooked the more you use them.
Making You mental cripples:-
Social media is taking away our ability to think. First, it induces herd mentality in us. Social media can largely affect our decisions even though we may not be aware of it. It is because every day it exposes us to an enormous amount of content which usually contains biased opinions of others, with the constant exposure of such content our decisions takes shape. Thus even though we might we are deciding but we might not be. Social media is also sometimes the cause of impulsive purchases which we later come to realise are far from being a rational purchase.
Not only it induces herd mentality but, it is also making our brains less active. Usually, when we use social media, we are just browsing through social media feed passively. And our brain needs constant stimulation to keep working properly. So by involving in such passive tasks for a prolonged period of time we literally lost our ability to think rationally.
Reduces Your Attention Span:-
With the increased use of social media our attention span is decreasing. Because of smartphones, people are facing exorbitant amount of anxiety today, and we can attribute a large part of this to the social media use. Because of social media, we have to fight a constant urge to use our smartphones so often. This largely affects younger people. It’s very often that they feel that their phone is vibrating even when it is not. Thus effectively, reducing their attention span. Our attention span has decreased from about 13 seconds to about 8 seconds, in just about a decade. And what that means for us is that we can no longer stay focused on the task at hand.
With decreased attention span we need to spend lots of efforts to stay focused. And what fuels this aspect even more is the fact that every application on your phone want a piece of your attention. And as you have experienced the more attention you put, the quicker that you felt exhausted. Thus, the amount of attention that you can spend on something is limited. So while you spend on social media you have little of it left for other things.
So I feel these are ways social media is destroying our lives. Though they were created for a noble purpose in mind i.e to connect people to each other. But that’s not exactly what’s happening. Today these social media platforms are being operated by large corporations whose primary task is to maximize their profits. And the only they can accomplish that is by making your stay on their applications longer. And by displaying more ads. So they are not serving that noble purpose anymore rather social media is destroying our lives.
I know just disconnecting from all the social media websites is difficult, but I assure you, you can do it. I am not using any social media and I don’t feel that I miss out on anything or I am losing something while not using social media. Even if you can’t leave it completely just try to decrease the time you spend on social media daily.